19 vulnerability questions

For personal / provocative

  1. 1

    What is something you have never told me because you were afraid of how I would react?

  2. 2

    When did you last feel lonely in this relationship?

  3. 3

    What do you think I am wrong about, that I refuse to see?

  4. 4

    What is the kindest thing you have thought about me and never said out loud?

  5. 5

    What part of yourself do you hide from almost everyone?

  6. 6

    When did you last cry, and what was it about?

  7. 7

    What compliment do you struggle to believe when you hear it?

  8. 8

    How connected have you felt to me this week?

    • Very close
    • Fine
    • A bit distant
    • Genuinely disconnected
  9. 9

    What is a way you have changed since we met that you are not sure I have noticed?

  10. 10

    When you imagine me hearing your worst thought about myself, what do you hope I would say?

  11. 11

    What do you pretend not to care about that you actually care about a great deal?

  12. 12

    What is the kindest thing anyone has done for you that you never managed to thank them for properly?

  13. 13

    What do you worry I would think less of you for, if you said it out loud?

  14. 14

    When did you last feel genuinely proud of yourself, and did you tell anyone?

  15. 15

    What is a compliment you have always wanted from me that I have never given?

  16. 16

    Where in your life do you feel most like yourself?

    • With you
    • With old friends
    • Alone
    • At work
    • With family
    • Nowhere lately
  17. 17

    What is something you are nervous about that is coming up soon?

  18. 18

    What does your inner critic say most often?

  19. 19

    What do you need to hear on a bad day, in the exact words?

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