8 repair questions
For personal / provocative
- 1
After we argue, what helps you come back to me fastest?
- 2
What does a real apology from me sound like?
- 3
What is a small thing that would tell you I have actually heard you, not just said sorry?
- 4
Which of these helps you most after a hard conversation?
- Being left alone for a bit
- A hug with no words
- Talking it fully through
- Doing something normal together
- Hearing that you are sorry again
- 5
What do you need to hear from me after a fight that you have never quite got?
- 6
Is there a hurt between us that we papered over rather than repaired?
- 7
What do you do to make peace that costs you more than I realise?
- 8
When you replay our worst argument, what do you wish you had done differently, and what do you wish I had?
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