22 new parents questions

For personal / provocative

1. 1

   What surprised you most about the first weeks with a baby?

2. 2

   What is one thing you are doing well as a parent that you would like me to say out loud?

3. 3

   What is a small ritual with our child that you already love?

4. 4

   Which of these do you need most this week?

   • Sleep
   • An hour alone
   • A meal you did not make
   • Adult conversation
   • To be told you are doing fine
5. 5

   What did your parents do that you want to copy, and what do you want to avoid?

6. 6

   What part of parenting do you find easier than you expected, and which harder?

7. 7

   What do you miss about our life before, and how much do you let yourself say so?

8. 8

   How do you think we are dividing the nights, honestly?

9. 9

   What advice have we been given that you quietly ignore?

10. 10

    What do you want our child to say about us at thirty?

11. 11

    When do you feel most like a team since the baby, and when least?

12. 12

    What is something you have not told me about how you are coping?

13. 13

    What fear about being a parent keeps you awake, apart from the baby?

14. 14

    What do you resent right now, even a little, and is it fair?

15. 15

    What has this changed about how you see me?

16. 16

    What do you need from me as a partner, not as a co-parent, that has slipped?

17. 17

    What kind of family do you want us to be, in a sentence we could say to our child?

18. 18

    Which of these describes our sleep situation?

    • Survivable
    • Grim but shared
    • Grim and uneven
    • Better than we admit
    • Do not ask
19. 19

    What is one thing you want to protect about us while the children are small?

20. 20

    When did you last feel proud of me as a parent, and did you say so?

21. 21

    What is the hardest hour of the day right now, and what would help?

22. 22

    What do you want to do together, just us, in the next month?

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