12 intimacy questions

For personal / provocative

  1. 1

    What do you wish I knew about what you like, without having to say it?

  2. 2

    When do you feel most desired by me?

  3. 3

    What is something about intimacy you learned late, or wrongly?

  4. 4

    What gets in the way of closeness for you: tiredness, stress, self-consciousness, resentment, or routine?

  5. 5

    What is a way of being close that has nothing to do with sex that you want more of?

  6. 6

    What do you think I assume about what you want, that is wrong?

  7. 7

    Which of these would you like more of, honestly?

    • Being initiated with
    • Initiating
    • Slowness
    • Playfulness
    • Talking about it at all
  8. 8

    When did you last feel self-conscious with me, and what would have helped?

  9. 9

    What do you want me to know about your body this year that is different from last?

  10. 10

    What did you learn about intimacy from how your parents were with each other?

  11. 11

    What would you want me to do if I noticed you pulling away?

  12. 12

    What is something we tried once and never talked about again?

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