15 grief & loss questions
For family & friends
- 1
What is a small thing that reminds you of the person we lost?
- 2
What is a story about them that still makes you laugh?
- 3
What did they always say that you catch yourself saying now?
- 4
Which of these is grief like for you at the moment?
- Waves that come without warning
- A dull background ache
- Mostly fine until a date or a song
- Numb
- Strangely peaceful
- 5
What do you wish people would stop saying to you about it?
- 6
What would they think of how we are doing?
- 7
What is something of theirs you kept, and where is it?
- 8
What conversation did you not get to have with them?
- 9
What do you feel guilty about, that nobody has told you to stop feeling guilty about?
- 10
Who in this group grieves most differently from you, and does it ever bother you?
- 11
What has this loss changed about what you want from your own life?
- 12
What do you want us to do on their birthday, or the anniversary, this year?
- 13
What is something you have not cried about yet?
- 14
What did they teach you that you would like the youngest of us to know?
- 15
Who checked on you after, and who did not, and how do you feel about both?
Try answering these at the same time
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