22 future questions

For personal / provocative, family & friends

  1. 1

    Where do you see us in five years, honestly rather than hopefully?

  2. 2

    What is something you want that you think I would say no to?

  3. 3

    What would you do with a year off and no obligations?

  4. 4

    What are you most afraid of about growing old?

  5. 5

    What would improve our relationship most right now?

    • More time together
    • Better communication
    • Less stress from outside
    • More independence
    • More physical intimacy
  6. 6

    What is something you have always wanted to try?

  7. 7

    Where should this group go together, if we could go anywhere?

  8. 8

    What do you hope is different about your life in three years?

  9. 9

    What is one thing you would like us to do more of this month?

  10. 10

    What does a good life look like to you at seventy, and where am I in it?

  11. 11

    What is a fear about our future that you keep to yourself so as not to worry me?

  12. 12

    If one of us had to give up something big for the other's dream, how do you think we would decide?

  13. 13

    What would you want me to do in the first year if you died before me?

  14. 14

    What are you most afraid our relationship could become?

    • Comfortable but distant
    • Two people managing a household
    • Resentful
    • Repeating my parents
    • I am not afraid of that
  15. 15

    What is one thing you would want the youngest person here to know that nobody told you?

  16. 16

    What do you want to be remembered for by the people in this group, specifically?

  17. 17

    What is a place you want us to go before we are too old to enjoy it?

  18. 18

    What is a skill you want us to learn together, even badly?

  19. 19

    In one year, what would you like to be true about our weekends?

  20. 20

    What do you want our home to feel like to a guest, in three words?

  21. 21

    What is one thing you want to do together before the year is out?

  22. 22

    Where do you see this group in ten years, honestly?

Try answering these at the same time

Reading a question out loud means whoever answers first sets the tone for everyone else. In Answersealed you each answer privately, and the answers only open once everyone has replied — so you get what people actually thought.

Start with someone

Browse all question packs